I can say it in one sentence....
Mean Mom is still MEAN!
I took a brief hiatus from the blog because I had a "small" event to run. It's called the Spring Fair and it's at Sweet Pea's elementary school. The same school that all of my children have attended. My husband is my co-chair (I needed someone I could depend on), we work on it for months and it grosses over $30,000 in 3 hours - phew! It has taken me a few days to recover.
So, while the Spring Fair is like a tornado in my life, add in an extra dose of Mean Mom and my brain got completely frazzled.
We met with the school after the initial complaint about Sweet Pea was filed and the school assured us that there was nothing to report. Sweet Pea has never had any incident of any kind documented in her file in the 4 years she has been a student. They assured me that all was well and appeased the other mother accusing my daughter of being a bully by hearing her story and giving her assurance that all was well.
The next week brought another round of accusations. Mean Mom recently complimented the teacher on a Lilly P sweater she was wearing and the teacher commented that the Bickies family had given her the sweater for Christmas. Sure enough we did give the teacher a gorgeous cashmere sweater for Christmas and I was very clear in our gift that we paid $39 for it at the warehouse sale and nothing near the $300 retail. Not for a second did we want to a) have any teacher think we were so extravagant or b) put on airs where none exist.
Mean Mom took that and started investigating the school district gifting policy because she was sure that we were "buying off" the teacher with expensive gifts in order to make her overlook Sweet Pea's "behavior". A pure crock of molasses.
Last week was the last straw. I received word from the rumor mill that Mean Mom was now circulating word that Sweet Pea's behavior was worsening and the teacher had promised her she would be calling us for a conference to address the worsening behavior. I chose to head off the rumor and call the teacher to make ourselves available for a conference and assure her that we were fully invested. The teacher responded immediately and assured me those words never left her mouth. There was no behavior much less worsening behavior. I spoke with she and the counselor and we have decided to play this out very carefully.
I know that I can not discuss the issue with the Mean Mom directly because no matter which angle I come at it from, I will still continue to look like the bad guy. The school is casually speaking to other parents to help put the rumors to rest. They are helping Sweet Pea rebuild her confidence and assuring me that all is well at school.
After the Spring Fair on Friday night we threw a Mexican Fiesta after party at our house for the chairs who have given so much in the past 4 months to make the Spring Fair happen. One of the moms was talking to Sweet Pea and she was talking about a special lunch she had with the teacher and guidance counselor. Sweet Pea was sure to point out that she wasn't having lunch with them because she was in trouble. It broke my heart to hear her have to explain herself. I can only hope this experience, however frustrating has helped her understand the complexities of friendships and to know that, no matter what, her family will be right by her side loving her along the way.
As much as I adore Sweet Pea's 3rd grade teacher, I can't wait for this year to end!